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Farewell, @Valdary

In the second half of last year, ellenmillion  ysabetwordsmith  and the others involved in the beginning of Torn World started holding contests.   So I entered a few contests, and in time got more involved in Torn World.  And thus I met valdary .  

This is another friend who I only actually met online.  And very shortly after meeting her, I learned that she had terminal cancer,  that the doctors had sent her home to die before I'd ever met her.  The whole time I knew her, she was in and out of the hospital, but always cheerful and friendly, creating art, poetry and stories for Torn World, tweeting updates about the site, and being a lively presence in the forums.

She was the first, after me, to write about skycats, one of the  animal types I entered into the second Torn World contest.  I remain delighted by her poem,  Bathing a Skycat.  Go check it out.  I'll wait.

She also has other art and stories on Tornworld.net, including her last story which was just posted in the last couple of days. 

She blogged about her experiences with cancer on the Severn Hospice site.

I just learned that she has died.  It was expected, of course, though not at any particular time.  And, of course, if the doctors had been right, I'd have never met her at all, and we'd never have had her contributions to Torn World to enjoy.  And I'd have never read about the Joys of Negative Thinking or her Secret Tattoos.  My connection to her  was one of the blessings of the year.

But even knowing she must leave us soon, I wasn't ready for her to die. 

Go gently, Val, you will be missed--and remembered.


( 4 comments — Leave a comment )
Dec. 12th, 2010 05:45 pm (UTC)
So sad. She sounds like a wonderful person.

ETA: ... especially now that I've read her blog. She had a wonderful attitude.

Edited at 2010-12-12 11:22 pm (UTC)
Dec. 12th, 2010 11:33 pm (UTC)
I'm glad my post led someone else to read her words.
Dec. 14th, 2010 09:03 am (UTC)
My condolences on your loss. I've learned that online friends are just as close as physical friends.

I dreamt of Zellie the other day, a sad dream about her and I living together and she was telling me she was moving out, going to live with her boyfriend in New York and I was so sad in the dream. When I first woke up I thought "I have to tell Zellie". I realised she wasn't on this earth anymore and felt such a sense of loss that it affected me the whole day. She's been in my thoughts a lot.
Dec. 16th, 2010 12:09 am (UTC)
I think it's natural to have her in your thoughts; the fact that you are missing her even in your dreams means you're still processing her loss. Have hugs!
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