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Stolen Flowers Retrieved

I headed outside with recycling, to store it in the bin out there until the City picks it up, and stopped to eat some Mulberries from the tree. I heard two women complimenting our flowers and headed toward the sidewalk to say thank you.

One of the women had a whole bouquet--some day lilies, two Asian lilies - one complete with roots - and a rose. Upon seeing me, she said, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to."

"I didn't mean to!"

As if the flowers had jumped into her hands of their own free will!

She was wrinkled and worn, with a piercing in her tongue. Heck if I know how old she was. But I scolded her like an eight-year-old. She reacted like an eight-year-old too.

I told her I paid money for those flowers. She said again that she didn't mean to. I told her of course she meant to. And then I accepted her apology, asked her not to do it again, and brought the flowers inside.

She said she wouldn't do it again. We'll see.

I'm still having trouble getting over "I didn't mean to" from a grown person.

In other news, the phone isn't saving pictures properly to my phone card; I don't know if the card was damaged when I downloaded pics from it recently or if the phone is continuing its slow disintegration.  I had to take this picture with My Angel's phone, which is why it's grainier than usual.  Oh, well, it's better than not having a camera available.



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Jul. 10th, 2011 12:35 am (UTC)
I think you met the flatmate I've just kicked out, fallen through a wormhole and aged 20 years. Nothing was ever her fault, and she's not in for an easy life...

The telling off like an 8 year old definitely rings a bell.

Jul. 10th, 2011 12:49 am (UTC)
I am glad my encounter could be measured in seconds or minutes, not days or weeks!
Jul. 10th, 2011 03:49 am (UTC)
Mind-boggling. Just mind-boggling.
Jul. 10th, 2011 06:13 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the sympathy. It's not uncommon here, though. I see mothers letting their kids pick flowers. We lost a lot of flowers one year to a pair of teenagers who got married (in a big fancy Hispanic wedding) late in August. There's times we see things from the second floor when we can't effectively go out and scold people in person.

I have also had kids angry with me that my flowers stung them. (I don't buy thornless roses). And as I noted elsewhere, when I asked one group of kids how the flowers got there, they guessed "they just grew" and their eyes got really wide when I said I spent money to buy them.

Yet, there's also a lot of people who express shock and sympathy too.

It's interesting, when I'm not annoyed about it!
Jul. 10th, 2011 04:08 am (UTC)
Old people do that, sadly, dementia is like a second childhood. It's frustrating! }:(
Jul. 10th, 2011 05:21 pm (UTC)
I don't think she was that old. But she might well have been mentally-challenged for some other reason. She looked like she had lived a hard life.

I feel sorry for the people around here who can't afford to buy flowers, but don't think that's a good excuse for stealing them. And rewarding her by letting her keep them wouldn't make things better.
Jul. 10th, 2011 09:58 am (UTC)
Hmm, I'm guessing that she meant she hadn't meant to pull the roots out, not that she hadn't meant to take the flowers???

People often seem to assume that if you've planted flowers/fruit in your property that they can take it for themselves. It's sad because not only are they robbing the person who planted them of their joys, but also robbing other people of the joy of seeing them.

We caught some kids pulling our lemons off our tree last year. If they'd asked I'd have gone and picked some for them. When they were running away they said "I'm sorry", to which my wife replied "No you aren't, you came and stole our fruit and you knew it was wrong but did it anyway".
Jul. 10th, 2011 05:35 pm (UTC)
No, when I pointed out she had killed one of the flowers her response sounded more definite--like she actually believed she hadn't meant to do that.

The two Asian lilies each had another 6-8 blooms developing above the ones that were open. They'd have been blooming for weeks outside, and even the one that was just broken (assuming she didn't damage it all the way down too) won't bloom again this year. I have some beautiful stargazer lilies that get stolen every year--every one of them. *sigh*

They also don't take into account--or don't know--that you can leave a plant open to disease by tearing blooms off roughly instead of cutting carefully. I had to tell some kids that you get roses by buying them--they don't just grow in someone's garden without human help.

And you are SO right about robbing everyone who passes by as well as us. It's also not just robbing us of a few blooms--it's taking a yard that was planned to look bright and beautiful and leaving it looking just overgrown. Roses that are twisted and torn and have no blooms on them don't look as good as roses that are tended properly, and lilies (and daisy plants, and all the other wildflowers) without blooms don't look good either. I get grumpy about it sometimes.
Jul. 11th, 2011 07:58 am (UTC)
How sad :*( Especially the ones that had been blooming for ages & won't bloom again this year.
Jul. 16th, 2011 01:05 am (UTC)

Hey--why don't you stop by the Muse Fusion? Any time this weekend would be great. I'll be in the chat room when I'm awake too.
Jul. 16th, 2011 08:36 pm (UTC)
I'll pop my head in later when I'm taking a break from house stuff and see if you are around :) Thank you for the invite.
Jul. 17th, 2011 12:29 am (UTC)
Yay! Though I'll be at Bastille Days for at least a little while this evening. But I look forward to seeing you in a chat room. The post at the LJ community has a link to the chatroom.

Please leave a prompt or two--they can be very general; if you want, you could even share links to some of your photos to see if they inspire people.
Jul. 10th, 2011 04:04 pm (UTC)
Ah, I hadn't thought of the "hadn't meant to pull the roots out" angle. red_trillium has a good point there, but nonetheless this type of "it's where I can reach it, ergo I'm entitled to take it" attitude that annoys when found in youth, blows the mind/infuriates when in an adult. Unfortunately, nowadays more adults seem to be competing with youth for attitude and attention issues than ever before.

Don't let the dweebs ruin your day. The bouquet is lovely.
Jul. 10th, 2011 05:39 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I won't let it ruin my day, but it is probably the most persistently annoying thing about living in the neighborhood I do. So many, many people have no respect for not only the fact that the flowers are NOT theirs, but for the work and money and time we put into getting them and keeping them.
Jul. 10th, 2011 05:54 pm (UTC)
I understand, and am constantly puzzled by the dearth of what MY Mom told me were basic good manners. Apparently, "basic" does not necessarily indicate "plentiful" (we already know "common"--as in "common sense"--isn't, so I can't use that word) or "widely distributed". Perhaps people don't believe good manners are important anymore.

It is a puzzlement.
Jul. 17th, 2011 12:33 am (UTC)
I suppose it's also possible that these people have a different idea of what's good manners, or don't think that good manners should be extended to everyone.

Certainly the idea that "they" don't deserve common courtesy has been practiced regarding many values of "they" over the course of human history.
Jul. 17th, 2011 12:45 pm (UTC)
"Certainly the idea that "they" don't deserve common courtesy has been practiced regarding many values of "they" over the course of human history."

*She snorts like a horse complete with head-shaking and sprays of icky stuff flying from her flaring nostrils.*

We humans have all too often gone so far as to deny that "they" are also human. Which might occasionally have merit on an individual basis, but certainly not as a broad designation based on gender, color, etc.
Jul. 17th, 2011 05:44 pm (UTC)
So true!
Jul. 10th, 2011 05:20 pm (UTC)
Those orange-red lilies are very pretty. :)
Jul. 10th, 2011 05:46 pm (UTC)
Thank you! Those are day lilies, which bloom in abundance once you get them established. They are called "day" lilies because each bloom lasts a day. However, they're hardy with bulb roots that are more like potato roots than your usual flower bulbs. They can take over an area, and are unlikely to be killed by kids pulling flowers off, no matter how rough they are.

I also have (or had) some orange-red Asian lilies. Thinking about the differences in the stalks and leaves, I bet the two types of lilies aren't related, or if they are, it's very distant, genetically, despite the similarity in the flowers.
Jul. 11th, 2011 02:52 am (UTC)
What a shame about people picking your flowers!

I blush to admit I did that once when I was young--but old enough to know better. (hangs head)

But I certainly understand why you are irritated. And what really gets me is, if you just leave the flowers in the ground, they last longer, and you can still go by and see them every day.
Jul. 11th, 2011 03:21 am (UTC)
It's so true that they last longer if they're not picked!

I planted almost a dozen of the stargazer lilies about four years ago; there's only two stalks growing this year. The others apparently didn't survive being yanked on in earlier years. It's so sad, because every year there's more buds on each stalk.

But I had a good day--I should do a new, more cheerful post!
Jun. 21st, 2012 05:51 pm (UTC)
Yes, I _am_ this far behind.

Dreadful to hear about, but I'm glad you caught her. Hopefully she will think twice before doing that (to you or another) again.

"I didn't mean to" is very nearly incomprehensible.
Jun. 22nd, 2012 03:18 am (UTC)
Welcome to my Past!

It's good to hear from you.

Jul. 4th, 2012 11:22 pm (UTC)
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