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F is for Friends #atozchallenge

When I was growing up, I was told the idea of friends is simple--people who you like, and who like you, and who are on your side. People you know, in person; people who like the movies or books you like; people who play the games you play. It seemed so simple and easy.

Of course, even before Facebook and LJ "friends", it wasn't so simple. Your friends don't always like the things you like, and they don't always vote the way you vote or pray the way you pray. Their friends don't always like you, and "Which Side Are You On?" isn't as simple and straightforward as in the old protest song.

I have come to value not only bosom buddies, but friends who are more challenging. I love having friends that make me think, friends that challenge my assumptions, friends that share lives very different from mine, and friends that support me by telling me (kindly or bluntly) when they think I've got it wrong or could improve.

I've had friends who pretended they loved everything I do and the way I do it until they got angry or frustrated enough to make a scene, and I learned to value people who tell me the things they don't like about me up front even more--maybe I can modify my behavior for them or maybe we will agree to avoid the situation that causes friction (another friend's example is two people who performed together, and who emphatically agreed to stay away from each other during the hours before a gig because they react to pre-performance stress so differently).

I have friends who are heart's-family who I see far too rarely and friends who will never be close, but who add something to my life even so.

There was a girl in my dorm at college who saw my posters (either unicorns or lions and tigers at that point) and told me straight out that if there was anything weirder than that about me, not to tell her. Well, that pretty much limited our conversations to weather, classes, and laundry--but every time I saw her she greeted me with a smile, and if I needed laundry change or a pen or something mundane like that, she was always willing to loan me , one. Some days she was the most friendly face I saw all day, and I thanked the Goddess for her (though, of course, I couldn't say those words to her).

I've come to see friendship as complicated and quirky as well as vital and wonderful. To all my friends out there--old friends or new-met, near or distant, bosom or near-acquaintances, I want to say I'm so glad you're out there. I'm so glad you're all different, and that you trust me with at least some of your uniqueness. Whether I hear from you daily or once a year, whether we see eye to eye or figuratively butt heads, you all enrich my life and broaden my world.

Thank you.



( 4 comments — Leave a comment )
Apr. 11th, 2012 08:29 am (UTC)
It's good to touch orbits with you, too. :)
Apr. 12th, 2012 02:37 am (UTC)
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Apr. 12th, 2012 02:38 am (UTC)
Oooh, sparkles! :-D
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